A pickup artist, commonly abbreviated PUA, is a term used to describe a man who is skilled in meeting, attracting, and seducing women. The use of “pickup” in this context, slang for making a casual acquaintance with a stranger in anticipation of sexual relations, dates from at least 1970 and the book How to Pick Up Girls by Eric Weber, and Pick-Up Times, a short-lived 1970s magazine, culminating in the 1987 semi-autobiographical film, The Pick-up Artist, written and directed by James Toback.
The term is also associated with the seduction community, a male subculture based on the goal of improved sexual and romantic abilities with women using self-help and an understanding of social psychology. The term received increased attention in 2005 upon the arrival of Neil Strauss’ bestselling book, The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists, also in 2007, from the reality television series, The Pick-up Artist, shown on VH1, starring Mystery, a well-known pickup artist.
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That’s Channel 4, not the BBC.
this is absolutely disgusting. how can people DO that??
Loved the documentary,I think creating this kind of exposure is very important and if we had more of it, being “seduced” or taken advantage of would be recognized for what it is and not the glamourous way of life men assume they should pursue in and effort to be happy or seem attractive to the opposite sex.
I think for some people that are social outcasts not by choice but my force and as of no action of there own, just the fact that they are themselfs. This would be a way to make them feel better and not so alone, there not alone for any reason looks, habbits, and personality are all fine. Its the world that has marked them as outcasts not themselves. Just think if robinson crusoe had only one way to meet people that were on the island with him would he do it? YOU BET HE WOULD! People need other people for there emotional stability, but you are right about the moral ethic of it is not the best and would highly sway someone like me from wanting to do it.
Taking time to think about trying this is something a moral person would do, sadly there are not alot left. Well im off to think.
Killernoob
Peace out, and keep on fraging
There is a word for judging a group or a community based on the actions an opinions of a few, prejudice. I think if you look at any person you will see stages of development and understanding that grow and evolve as the person grows and evolves. My experience has taught me that most who see the community are not the “Player” type, in fact they are just the opposite. I myself have to admit there was something in the social interaction with women I just didn’t understand. I could NEVER even get close to kissing a girl I truly wanted. I could only end up with the girls I happened to end up with and I just learned to be happy with that. A year ago or so a friend of mine was hitting a dreaded mark, made popular by the movie “The 40 year old Virgin”, he asked me if I knew about the PUA community. I did some research and realized I did know something of it, but I brushed it off cause I was married at the time and thought that it was only about “getting girls”. I could not have been more wrong. In fact if I had learned the “secrets” I have no doubt those same secrets would have kept my marriage together. It is the knowledge and experience that builds and maintains attraction. The hardest lesson to learn was ATTRACTION isn’t a choice. Which truly means if a woman isn’t attracted to you, or looses attraction for you, its not her fault. Don’t work on women….Work on YOURSELF! Much of this documentary was about a guy who is truly just starting “The Game”. If he allows himself to to continue to evolve he will find a much more stable place making constructive rather than destructive decisions. Still its a journey we must all take.
Most guys who “good at getting girls”, from my experience, are not willing to change what they do in order to become a true PUA. Often the feeling is “I’m already better than any PUA ever could be”, or that “PUA is just lame”. Me personally, I love that I can go to any party, any club, and social gathering, and always have fun. A real PUA can hold the attention of any room, any size, any setting, they develop the skills and tools to entrance entertain an enthrall any audience; from a romantic encounter of just 1, or a group of 100 or more. They are no less skilled than some of the best paid magicians, comedians, and story tellers.
We all have desires that drive us to want to be better suited to attract a mate. Women buy make up read magazines, and watch other women for clues of what can make them more attractive. Guys spend hours in the gym, buy flashy cars, ask the advice of “the natural” or the friend with more experience. Some of us choose to use the power born of all men to grow, develop, and change into something much much more than we once were. We find the power to take control of our fears, to conquer our genetic code, to no longer allow our outward expressions betray our inner most thoughts.
I teach my friends and students to know who they want to be, be the best they can be, and strive for that which makes them truly live. Its not a game, its a life.
-Ronin
Pick-up is like martial arts, hard to learn but the effort is really worthy, it can change your life, it’s the GREATEST THING you can spend your time for, just we have to be careful not to become maniacs, as Style says it has to be just a good hobby.